IUDs, Erectile Dysfunction & Jowls

In this episode, we clearly had some things to get off our chests! We’re talking smelly food in the office (literally stop bringing it in) why nobody will ever separate us from a sweet treat, and the fact that there is absolutely nothing wrong with our faces… or our jowls. Strong opinions were shared, complaints were made, and honestly? We stand by all of it.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome to the Talk Talk Talk Over Podcast. Before we get into it, this episode is sponsored by Joe Louise Beauty. And we're fucking back. Welcome back, everyone. Oh my god. How are we feeling? I'm feeling great now. Sarah's feeling fancy today. She's got the jeans on. I know. Like you all have been unlocked. That's really brave of you. Yeah, it was brave of me. Um guys. Okay, guys, I do have something for you. Ooh. So another rat story. No, it's not a story. But as you guys know, I don't know if our audience knows, but whenever we have any kind of debate, I'm never the one alone. It's true. It's usually I'm singled out, or Ari very rarely is singled out. And I'm usually on one of their teams, or I'm always on one of their teams. I've never been alone. And so I came with some controversial things that I like do or like hot takes that I have. That you think we're not going to be that you yeah, maybe I can get singled out. She's like, let me villainize my team. Okay. Yeah. So um these are like just about myself, pretty much. Okay, perfect. So okay, also olive theory. This is one of the ones I wrote down. I like olives.

unknown 1:23

I don't.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

You guys don't like olives. Okay, perfect. But they say the friendship works out better that way. The relationship. We will give you all give you all of our olives. What about pickles? You guys both like pickles, right? I yeah, I like a pickle every once in a while, but I also like would give you my pickle if you wanted it, because I like could go with a pick. I know I don't really actually don't care. I don't feel that strongly about pickles. I love a pickle. Okay, this one's gonna hurt you. I don't like a campfire. Oh yeah, she's uh she's out on that one. You're alone. You know what though? I'm alone on this one. You like a campfire. I love a campfire, but I don't love when my pillowcase smells like it the next day because my hair smells like it's like that. That's what I hate. I I don't like when my clothes smell like that. That's my favorite part. Oh, okay. I won't put it in a perfume bottle. That's what I don't know. For some reason, it just feels so homey. It does. I I just love it. My mom hates it. She's like, you need to shower. I like an indoor fire, like a chimney fire. In a fireplace, yeah. Yeah. The more bomb fire. If you guys haven't breathing in smoke, Sarah and I don't like it. Oh my god. I've never go and watch us try to start a fire video. I'm like, this is flammable, right? Like literally the whole box. Yeah. I think that's what did it, actually. Right? I I don't know what did it. My father literally has an outdoor recreation degree, like a bachelor's in that. And he he was like, I have never been more disappointed. He's like, I failed you. Yeah, but I'm like, I've watched everybody start fires all the time. It's it's harder than it was. Wait, I thought it could just be a few. I've never tried. I probably won't ever try again, but it was a good learning experience. We should try and do. Did you guys have a lighter?

unknown 3:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:08

Yeah, we should try to start a fire without a lighter. No. Dude, we've barely with a lighter and a whole box of matches. We could barely do it. Hand sanitizer and all. Nothing. Hand sanitizer, yeah. Yeah, we didn't have kindling, that was the problem, really. Yeah, you were like, everything was blazed. We had like a lot of leaves we were trying to catch on fire, but they like burn up in an inner. They just don't hold the heat. They didn't. Yeah. I'm literally like have the I have the lighter like against the block of wood. I'm like, Yeah, literally, she's like catching a little piece on fire. We just watch it go out. My dad was like, what the fuck are you doing? I'm like, I Hannah was beside herself. I'm like, sorry guys, I don't know. And then we finally did it. We're just standing there, like, what now? Yeah, we're next to every like 10 minutes. We're like, we're gonna put water on it, we're done. Yeah, let's go to bed. I mean, it took us like an hour just to light it. So, like, all the time we were gonna spend sitting out there was us trying to light it. You're like, wait, I'm actually tired now. Yeah. Oh god. Damn. Okay, let me read some more that I have. Oh. This one you won't like. I could only eat carbs for the rest of my life and be content. No, I couldn't. I could have like pasta or a bagel or like pizza. And that's it. And I would be really okay. I would need F10. Yeah, I'd be. Oh, yeah. I'd be more than okay. I'm like I always am in the mood for like chicken. Like I need protein and I always want a fruit. Yeah. Like I need those bad every single day, or like I'm not feeling good. I don't know what it is. I could run out of wine and carbs. Yeah, like and I would be fine. Yeah. I love that for you guys. Um once again, I'm singled out. Well, I really love this. Yeah, literally. Oh, I don't care that much about Thanksgiving food, especially the turkey. I actually honestly I don't care either. Yeah. Period. Yeah. Yeah, I don't. I thought that was like a really hot take. No, it is a hot take for a lot of people, but I really could care less. Okay. Honestly, I'm there for the desserts for Thanksgiving. The desserts and the apps. I love stuff. The dinner, I could go with me either. Yes. The buffalo chicken. I'm usually like full but before I even get to Thanksgiving dinner. Same. Because I've eaten so many. Charcuterie, dips. The thought of it makes me full. Yeah. Yeah, and then there's people like having like four plates, and I'm like, oh my god. Did you not have any of the appetizers? Because I ate one of everything. But they did. They did. They still did. They're saving up the bottom. I like the rolls. Yes. Rolls and stuffing and gravy. Oh, I don't know. Like, that's the only thing I want. Really? I don't like the stuffing. I love stuffing. No. No. I can't remember what else goes in Thanksgiving dinner, but I had not really a fan. Sweet potato casserole? No. Wait, yeah. Yeah, dude, every year I put the marshmallows on there. Yeah, that's so good. I'm actually shocked that you like that. It's so sweet. It's like candy. I don't know this about Ari, she's actually a picky eater. Oh my god, don't out me. She actually is super picky eating. But no, but like I will not beat it. I'm outing myself. So if there is food I don't like, I will eat it. I will do that. I'll suffer. You know, but if I'm at my home, I will be having my butter noodles. In that sense. Wow, that's a hottie. Should we get into our hotties and on the other hand? Yeah, let's get into it. Oh my goodness. Okay. Ariana. Who is your hottie? Oh my god. It's my turn. Who or what? Great question. Or when or how. Yeah. What era is this person from? Okay. Um, okay. I Benson Boone just had a perform performance, and he always does like a cover at like the like during it. He sang All I Ask by Adele. And I swear to God, I thought Adele was saying. Wait, I just got chills. I thought. Same. Yeah. No, like literally, it sounds exactly like Adele is. I bet he sounds really good. Sane. I love, I love when he does a cover. When he does his coverage, he has an insane voice for covering. Ooh, Queen. Yeah, he'd eat that up. He could sing anything. He just has like, I don't know what it is, like, because some people are like a really good cover artist, right? Like really good. And but everyone sang, like, literally, I closed my eyes and I thought it was Adele. Wow. You're kidding. How does he do so deadass? Wow. I have to show you after. Actually, crazy, but I was like, that's really hot. Wow, I love that. Yeah, it is hot. Wait, he was my hottie one time too. I know, but he continues. He's been a hottie twice. Yeah, he's he's moving around. I love this. He's gonna grow on you. I'm not like a hater of him. Yeah, no. I do like him, but I I think he's only hot 50% of the time, and that's why we're we don't agree. But then I hear him sing like a voice, I'm gonna do it. I know the voice looks over for me. I used to have like a crush on Post Malone just because of his voice. Yeah. But then he's not even now, yeah. No, like bad isn't good. Oh, okay. Oh, I was tattooing. He looks a lot of fun. I think he looks better now. He's more in his like country era. Yeah. No, I love that. Like I think that's fine. He's like more confident. He looks healthier. He does a couple, which that has a lot to do with it. I agree. Yeah. I love that from Sarah. Do tell us. Let me see. I had like a few different ones I was gonna do. Okay, this one is actually a hottie. Getting older and having new people come into your life. I just think it's like literally the three of us. I know. I just think it's crazy because like I didn't even know you guys like a few years ago. Now we're sitting here like doing this. And it's just like so like fun thinking about the people that you don't even know yet that you're going to love in the future. That's so true. Yeah. Like I that's really sweet. Yeah, that's like such a special part about life. Yeah. Right. Like, you don't even know like your favorite person yet. Like your husband, your kids, like all your favorites. Yeah, your kids. Right. Yeah. You don't even know. That's just so much exciting. I know. I'm trying not to cry. No, that's really sweet. No, I like that a lot. Yeah, the best things come unexpectedly for sure. I know. Oh, we love that. But it's just so crazy, like thinking about the future. Like, we really don't know who we're gonna meet, or no idea. Who's gonna be in our life that's gonna be important? Right? Like I would have never known. I know your core people. No, I know. Because I almost didn't take the job that would be like. Like that that would have changed everything. Butterfly effect. I know, seriously. And then I wouldn't have met you. It's so crazy. I know. Thank God. Right. And like Ari and I are obviously cousins, but we're second cousins. We didn't really hang out that much until we got older. And then I needed a travel buddy, and she was like, Let's do it. Like if she couldn't go, like we probably wouldn't be as close as we are. Yeah. Right. If all those things hadn't happened, we all wouldn't be sitting here on the room. It happens for a reason. Yeah. It does. It's amazing. The best way. Oh, I love that. Um she's like, let me tell you my launch body ever. Let me pivot. Um, cross off of the man with visa. So my hottie is Bradley Stephen Perry. And this is Gabe Duncan from the body. So he just recently married DJ Tanner from Full House. DJ Tanner from Full House, her daughter. No way. Two of them just they got married just. That's her daughter? Yeah. And I don't know what she looks like. I saw. Did you tell me that already? I think I might have told you guys. I saw that. But I was like, he is so adorable and he's a great cook. He's so sweet. He has little cookies. He's so handsome. Yeah, I love him. I love him all around. I think he's so adorable. Oh my god. I loved him on Good Look Charlie. I know. He was so funny. He's gotten so handsome. He is very handsome. He really grew into himself. But I just think like young dads like him, like that's exciting. Like I feel like he's gonna be a good dad. I love that. Yeah. So they're my hottie. Them together and their baby, but mostly Bradley.

unknown 10:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:59

I need to see what she I don't know what she looks like. She honestly I've always loved him. She's really pretty. I don't think she looks like like you know how Reese Witherspin's daughter is like exactly Reese Witherspin. Like she doesn't look just like photography, whatever. Yeah. Um I don't even remember her name. Just look up Gabe Duncan's. Those are some nepro babies that I can get behind. Dude, seriously. And he's 27, so he's really not even that young. Bradley Stevens 12. He's only 27. Oh, Natasha Burr. Yes, of course, of course. He has a mustache too, doesn't he? Yeah, he's really good. She's good together. Yeah, she eats down. Like they look pretty good. Their wedding looked so great in their baby pictures. They look good together. They really do. I know. That's a really cute guy. I'm obsessed with it. Wow. He's a short king. Like, shout out George Kings. That's like my type. I fear it. Exactly. I fear I love a short king. Thank you so much. And I really, I really try to see the tall guys. The short kings are all they have lethal face cards. Yeah. And I feel like they have to learn their confidence because they probably get bullied for being short. There's a bad short king, and there's a good short king. Yes. The bad short king is the one who like hates themselves and so they're really mean. But a good short king is like they just like they just live with the cards they were del and they're funny. They're handsome. And they just are like, I feel like we're the type of people we don't need like a six point six point six point something. Six point. Well, all of us grew up with short men in our families, so like that wasn't anything out of the ordinary. Yeah. Like I think my dad's five ten. Like, I think that's pretty short. Like my uncles are like for our family, that's tall. I think my dad's like five'eight, maybe. Yeah. Like I feel like I don't know. That's not true. On my on my other side, I got tall people, but I got a little bit of both. Yeah, you do have both. Yeah. So well rounded. We don't discriminate. No, we don't. We love diversity here. You know what? Okay. I do have to hate. Uh-oh, on Eddie. I do have to hate on something. Oh, okay. I love it. It's very serious. Oh, okay. And it's fucking rude. Oh god. Fucking red. It's fucking red. People who decide to bring fucking fish into the office. Oh.

SPEAKER_00 13:18

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 13:18

That's just a big thing. That actually is rude. It is rude. It's so like I can't even work. I can't even work because I'm well is your salmon and the microwave. I'm eating fish now. That's disgusting. It's just everywhere. Yeah, I don't even like seafood either. So that's like. I feel bad when I bring any kind of food that smells. Like your microwave. Microwave. Okay, that's even worse than it's heated up and now that's heated smell Dude. I'm sorry. This is that's better though than heating up these fish. People bring weird food to eat in the office. Which, like I guess, like wait till you get home to eat it, I think. Dude, some of them can't change it. Can't they go and do it like in the cafeteria? Like, yeah, but like people bring it like to their desk to eat. Yeah. Because it's like why are we doing it? There are plenty of eating areas. Right. This is not one of them. Right.

unknown 14:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:12

And it's fucking naughty. Because I can't stand it because I'm not going to be able to do that. No, I actually in my office, I think, is like a universal no. Yeah, like do not bring to not bring your eggs to your table. Like, I don't. That's brutal. Like, I like eggs, but not gonna bring it to the microphone. Dude, we had someone in our office cooking eggs in the microwave. Like, brought raw eggs, cracked them, and put them in the microwave. Yes. I didn't see it, but I heard about it from Thanksgiving Duncan's. Why are we doing that? Like, okay, who first of all travels with raw eggs though? Yeah. Like, what are we doing? Yeah, he's just bringing the whole chicken. He cares to like what? Wow. No, people bring weird food to the office. Like, they do. Why are we hating on peanut butter and jelly? You really realize how seriously how different. God, no. Okay, I know. Who is my naughty? Good question. Um, oh, I had a few. Okay. My naughty is having to put so much effort in to still look mid. Sarah, you've never looked middle. I'm not like never actually had this problem. No, I'm not saying I'm saying for me, I'm mid because I'm not at my full potential, but what it would take to reach my full potential would be an insane amount of money and work and time and effort and energy. And I just think it needs to be appreciated more. You know what? I agree. Working out is hard. Working up every day and doing your hair and doing your makeup is a lot of work. Right. That's most people don't have the time for it. And also, like makeup is fucking expensive. It is. Dude, I'm like running low from like shit I've had from like high school, and I'm like, You're like, no. Hey guys, you need to take me out and help me. Okay. We're going out after this. Like I don't know if you can buy road in the store, can you? Oh, okay. So Sephora, I don't I actually don't remember which one. But like I got one. So I got a road blush for myself because I really wanted it. And then for my birthday last year, my brother's girlfriend gave me one, and I still haven't used it. So like it's lasted me over a year, and it's a blush I use every day. I do like that blush. So it lasts. I will be buying it. And it's yeah, it's like a sun. Um I get in the shade, Sleepy Girl. I know. And it kind of like gives like the sunbird look. Yes, and I love that. Yeah. I really like that color. Okay, guys. So yeah, teach me your ways. Okay. And help a girl out. Yeah. Period. No, I love that. You will. But no, you're right. It is. Yes. It is definitely challenging, and I agree. Like, especially if somebody with a full-time job, like you don't have all the time in the world. Right. And also, like, I feel like you would have to stop doing things that you enjoy, like stop eating sweet treats and like all this stuff. I'm liberally overestimate. In order to reach your full potential, like physically. But you know what? Is that your full potential if you're just Exactly? Like it feels like it's not. Well, yeah, because if you're trying to do somewhere else. Right, and then your lappiness and happiness, your glow is gonna be down. No, you're yeah, you're right. You will have to fry sugar out of my cold dead pair because I can't. I will never give up a sweet treat ever. I have a gun. No, I'm not doing that. I literally don't do that. I can't. Um I don't care that but. So my naughty is sloppy drunks. Oh. When it becomes my problem, I yeah, the second you start getting I've had this in here for a little while, but like the second you start getting like people who like hang all over you, they have like their arm around you, or they're like they talk to you like wicked clothes, or they're just like I don't like them. They become your problem.

SPEAKER_00 18:00

They're a runner. Yeah.

unknown 18:02

They're a runner.

SPEAKER_01 18:03

I hear like if I feel like I have to stop drinking because I know I have to take care of you, like I just like I love. I'm not going out with you again at that point. Like, I think it's great to get a little silly, but I think if you can't handle it. I mean, it happens to everybody, everyone's obviously. Like, it's not a good thing. But it happens every time if it's a constant, like you are just known as a sloppy drunk, like we will not be able to do it. And every time you have a drink, it turns into that. That's what a horrible title to have. No, like like it's the I can't go out with you because you're crazy. You're super sloppy, and yeah. Like, I don't want to have to become my problem. When I'm ruining my night, yeah. I can't with that. Like I said, I can't with that either. I think it's disrespectful. No, it is. It's a fucking crazy. It's so rude. It's like how everyone other people are gonna take care of you. I don't want to. No. No, it's not anyone else's job. You're a grown person, I would assume, if you're drinking. So especially at our age now. Like, come on. Right. Yeah. What are we doing? Yeah, if I want to time, tuck you into the sloppy drunk time and hype. Right, and like it'll happen every once in a while, and that's okay. But like, if it's a consistent thing, you're not even. It's also a red flag, I think. It is. Yeah. I'm gonna start asking you if you're okay. Like, what are we doing? Yeah, when you're doing to get Blackout drunk every time you're going out. No, I agree. Yeah. Definitely a red flag. Well, this episode's gonna be a little bit different. We decided to get some of our audience to write in, and so we can talk about kind of topics you guys are interested in, or we have a few story times to read. Yeah. So let's get into our topics. Today's episode is sponsored by Joe Louise Beauty. I've been dying to find a place where I can get my brows done, my lashes done, and get a full beauty makeup, of course. Well, me too. And especially from a girl's girl who has the stats to prove it. She was voted platinum best makeup artist and voted gold best lashes in Nashua 2025. Like yeah. Gotta go see her. That's where I want to go. So when you go, mention the talkover pod at time of booking to get 15% off your service. No, that's a deal. You are gonna be obsessed. You're gonna love her. Yes. We love her, you'll love her too. Okay, we're gonna kick it off with a little discussion topic we had written in. So tell us what it is. Yeah, so someone wrote this in and they said, I'm having literally the most trouble getting back into into working out tips. Question mark. Like, well, yes, it is hard. You're doing a really good job of like. Do you think? Yeah. Yeah, you do. No, I've been watching your segments because I don't I feel like a lot of people are getting trying to find new ways to be active without being like, I have to run two miles. I have to run. That thing, yeah, it takes the joy out of it. I think I mean I know some people love going to the gym. Like, I know a lot of people who it's like that is their routine, they love being in the gym. I get bored. That is great, and I love that. I get bored, like I know a bit more. Running is not fun for me. In my life, yeah, because or else I just won't do it if I'm if I'm already thinking I'm gonna be bored doing it. So my first tip is if you have the funds for it, if you're not unemployed like me, I love a class. I've been to Orange Theory for like three years, and I think it helps knowing number one, I've paid for this, so I need to do it. Number two, if I've booked a class, I cannot book I I can't cancel, I think, within like 12 hours of the class, or they charge you. So if the night before you're thinking I really don't want to go, it's like my thing is I don't really give a fuck about that. Uh oh. Like that doesn't getting charged just doesn't bother me. Damn. It bothers me. I'm like, I just laid in bed and now I have to pay for something else. For no reason when I could have just got up and then I would have felt better afterwards. I know that is like why I work amount. Yeah. Maybe not all people, yeah. But um, yeah, the other thing I've been doing is I I do feel like I mean for those who post on socials, it like kind of for even if nobody's watching the videos, it's like, okay, I already told my platform that I'm gonna work out now. That's so true. I have to take a video and show that would definitely hold me accountable in my routine. Well, I think part of that is like not even like having to post on social media because like obviously not right everyone's gonna do that. Like having a buddy or just having someone to like hold you accountable. That is, that's what I feel the classes do. They hold you accountable. Like you need to come or you're gonna get charged. And you're like, competing with the people next to you. I do do that. You're like, well, they can hold this 50-year-old woman can hold a plank for five minutes. So then it's like setting like attainable goals. Right. Like, I'm gonna work out at least three days a week. Yeah. Like you don't have to kill yourself like to like do stay fit. Like, you just need to like say, like, okay, like if I can have a break this day, but like that means tomorrow I'll do something. Right. Yeah. It doesn't have to be crazy, but it also doesn't have to be you on a yoga mat doing push-ups and doing stuff. Like, go ahead. You can go for a walk, you can go for a bike ride, just do anything. Roller skating is a really good butt workout, guys. And like legs. Um like I think that's fun. Like literally joining an adult, like if you played sports in high school, like I just joined like an adult volleyball league, are you joining an adult soccer league? Like, just any way that you think fun moving. I think the hardest part about getting back into it is the mental barrier though. It is, and but I saw someone talking about she was like getting ready for her wedding, and she was like, I just like vowed that I would do something every day, and she her mindset is anything is better than zero. So she was like, she was like literally like some days I would go to the gym for eight minutes and just give it my all because that's all I had time for, or that's all the energy I had. And she's like, go for a one-minute walk, do three push-ups, like anything is better than zero. Well, they still like just consistency and getting in the habit of doing stuff, like you don't have to start at a hundred. No, just start somewhere. Sometimes those eight minutes is your a hundred for the day. Exactly. Right. So I go walk on the treadmill for eight minutes. Like 10 push-ups. Yeah. I love that. Like, do you want to do it? Do a 10-minute workout. Like anything that feels good for your body and feels good mentally, I think is worth it. Also, something that I use for myself is if I can scroll on my phone for 10 minutes, I can go do a 10-minute workout. Right. Or I can not even just for working out, I can fold my laundry for 10 minutes. Right. Literally hold your phone and scroll and do squats while you're watching. Yeah. Like you do anything. Like if I'm gonna get in bed and scroll for 10 minutes, I can go do something productive for 10 minutes. It's like I think you just have to be like kind of conscious of your choices. Yeah. Because like you do, at the end of the day, the day, like you do have 30 minutes to choose yourself. You do to do a one. You have one minute. You can hold a plane for one minute. I know everyone has one minute in their day to spare. No, you're so right. That's really good. Yeah. I love that. Or 30 seconds you have 30 seconds. I know you do. Yeah. Right. 10. Yeah. You have one second. We're gonna time you right now. Did you know the 30 seconds? Did you know to have 30 seconds? Yeah, so um, I think those were helpful tips. I hope they were. Yeah. Those have been helping me, honestly. Yeah. It's really just starting anywhere and being consistent. Don't tell yourself you have to live you have to PR every time you work out. Like you don't need to do that. I think the more competitive with anyone. Yeah, the more it turns into a chore, the less you want to do it. So like finding ways to make it fun, I think, is like the only way that you're like consistent. No comparing to other people. Like everyone's at their own different stages, so it's like do what feels good to you, but don't be like, oh I'm doing less than this person. Like that's well, sometimes I feel like yeah, when I'm in like Pilates and I'm like, oh, I need to like do the modified version. Like, and I'm like, fuck, everyone's I'm not looking at anybody else. No one's why am I stressed if I do the same thing if they see me doing the modification? Like the modification is there for a reason. Yeah, of course. Like you don't want to like hurt yourself. Some days you don't need to do it. Some days you do. Every day is different. You also don't want to pass out and not be able to finish the workout. Exactly. Because then you miss out on two other days. Like you know, so I'd rather do it right and take the modification than have bad form and like hurt myself. Right. No, I love this. Trying to kill myself. Yeah. Like literally not to accidentally kill myself via Pilates. Okay. Like, yeah. We have quite the interesting story time. Ooh, I'm sad. I'm sad though. I'm excited for this. They laid it out for us perfectly. Okay. That's a long message. Yeah. Okay. I almost said, who said the code? Grab a drink for this one. No one needs to know it's anonymous. I'm a 24-year-old who recently got her first IUD back in December. Congratulations. That's really grave. Um, I had been on the pill since I was 15 and suddenly got kind of wigged out that I'd been on it for almost seven years and wanted to look at other options, which absolutely rightfully so. Right. God, I need my reading glasses. I ended up just sending Oh my god, no, I literally can't read. I ended up just sending it at my routine checkup because I was half wanting to get it over with and half worried out of my mind. I knew I wouldn't go through with it if I had time to think about it for too long. My gyno, who is wonderful, innocently placed an apple juice and uh 600 milligrams of Advil in my hand and gave me 20 minutes to settle in. Wait, Advil? Yeah, that's all they gave her. So what the fuck is that doing? That I've literally not. Like, I'm sorry. That's literally getting rid of my time. Yeah, seriously. It's not gonna do anything for you shoving something in my uterus. No, what? How could they do okay? Once it was time for the procedure, I realized I was in for the worst pain of my life. Not only is the IUD insertion painful, but the measuring of the cervix beforehand was fucking crazy. I literally tensed up so hard from the pain that I strained my asshole. And on top of bleeding and cramping for a week, I could not shit because my butt was in so much pain. Dude, that really Like these are things. Her poor body is telling women. I cannot believe that that's a thing that your asshole cramps up. And that you're literally not at all medicated for. No, my mom said that. I know that's not cleaning. Sorry. My mom got an IED in like high school, I think, and she was like, it felt like contractions. No, literally. It is. It is contractions. Literally. No, that shit is ridiculous. No, that's actually. No, they're just like women's health is not stuff. I just said this the other day, but erectile dysfunction has more studies than women's health does. Like, of course it does. Like, sorry your dunk doesn't work. Like, I'm gonna die because I don't have the proper like literature studies. Like, actually. Like my tiny body. I can't have heavy metals because all you gave me was Advil and then you should have a piece of plastic in my uterus. That was literally the same level of like, here's a ton. Yeah. Oh, okay. Thank you. Oh yeah, hopefully that'll make my tummy feel better. Thanks. Hope that you're a woman, you're strong. Hope you're hungry. They eat the lollipop thing. They think we're strong, but they actually don't think we're strong at all. But like when it comes to health, they go and suck it up. Like it doesn't hurt that bad. She's straining so hard that she's literally fucking up her ass. No, like she actually couldn't poop. But like that's like fucked up of the doctor to be like, are you in pain? Like well, I also think that because doctors like do this routinely, that they sometimes forget to like preface that like this 24-year-old girl has never done this before. No. Right. Like you're giving me Apple. It's so true telling me for that. It's like, no, um, this is actually traumatizing. Yes. I now I have to worry about getting this out in five years. Yeah, we've like lost the plot so hard when it comes to medicine. I think like they're people just don't have compassion. Like by people I mean doctors. I've experienced a lot of doctors that just don't give a fuck. Which is too bad. I think I think on both ends, like they have a very hard job, and that's definitely, but sometimes like the bedside manner really is important. It matters a lot. Yeah. No, I agree. That story shook me. No. That shook me. What? If you go to some places, like I know somebody who works for Planned Parenthood, and like they will medicate you for it in some places. But like I don't know if you're not going to be able to do what kind of medication? Maybe I don't know. Like a fucking epidural. Like I wonder if it's like laughing gas or something. I don't think they'd give you an epidural. Like you can't walk. Oh, okay. Numb from the waist. Honestly, just put me to sleep. I don't know why. Well, I think that's what they low-key do. Like they which is what like I can get up. I feel like a colonoscopy can't be that bad. Like in comparison to getting an IUD. Right? But colonoscopy. Yeah, honestly, yeah, I can't. People will go to sleep without right now. Yeah, they put you out. Yeah. Right. So what are we doing? What are we doing? What are we doing? But laughing gas doesn't actually, you can still feel the pain, but it just after it prevents you from remembering how bad it was. It doesn't actually stop any feeling. It's supposed to calm you down. That too, yeah. I thought it calms you like down. Hey, so we're gonna erase your memory so don't worry about the trauma. It's kind of like when you're drunk and like you're getting-you roll your ankle, like you don't really feel it. Yeah, you don't or you don't remember feeling it. Yeah, yeah.

unknown 31:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:31

No, that's what they gave me when I got my wisdom teeth out, and I was awake. And but the worst part is is that like I'm a paranoid high person, and so it felt like I was like high. And so I was like even more stressed. Yeah, like I would freak out. I could talk. I was like, wait, it's out, and she like showed me my tooth. Yeah, I was gross. No, but like that's literally what I sound. Like my my tongue was so dry. Oh it was disgusting. I hate that. Dude, I would hate no, I was knock me out. Yeah, knock me out. No, okay, guys. Next discussion topic pros and cons of starting a relationship with your guy best friend. Ooh. This one's a big one that I think a lot of people deal with, but as Taylor Swift once said, ruin the relationship. Ruin the friendship. Ruin the friendship. You can't even quote her right. Ruin the friendship. I don't that's her advice. I I agree with her. Because like pros, like you guys are friends for a reason. Like, obviously, you're friends. You guys are best friends. You already have a basis. Know each other, yeah. I think that's the best way to start a relationship. It is. Also, I'm loving so ideal. I think there's no other option if you're both interested in each other. It's like you have to trying ourselves. You have to try, or else you'll never know if it'll work. And if it doesn't work, like it doesn't work. But like also, yeah. But then what, you're gonna go marry someone else and this person's still your friend and you're interested in them. I think that's I think there's more. I think you just the only option is to get together and see what happens. I think so too. But like if it's a strong enough friendship, like if it didn't work out and you guys both understand that, yeah, then I feel like to be a friend. But I just think life is too short. I always think love is worth the risk. Same. Right. Like I think why not? Like why it because like you can't not do it just because you're scared to lose them if you end up breaking out. Like, that's yeah, but then you're like literally torturing yourself otherwise. Like look at the person going on dates with other people, but you're actually in love with them. Like, no. Wait, I don't know. You're mine in that situation, and that's just no. Like, I think I don't even know. I mean, there is cons, of course, but it's the same cons that come with any type of dating. Yeah. So I think fucking go for it personally. I don't think there's any cons. No, like I think it's worth it. I don't think there, yeah, there's not any real cons to it. There's only pros. Because if it if like the relationship doesn't work out and you guys want I'm like re trying to look at the next topics and I'm like, wait. So like if it doesn't work out and they handled the situation poorly, like that's also insight to like the friends they really are. Yeah, it's so true. Yeah, because you don't want to be friends with them anyways. I was like going on that segue and I was like, where the fuck am I getting? Yeah, like why am I bringing this up? Yeah. So I don't know. It I feel like either way it gives you the information you need. Yeah, I I think I would definitely for the better. Ruin the friendship. Yep. Ruin the friendship. Better that then regret it for all time. Tailored Don't come for us. Good song. Good fucking song. I love that song. Okay, the other one that we had written in, or that someone had written in, we had already kind of discussed it last episode, but I figure we can just kind of give a little spark notes. Um, it's dating with age gaps. Yeah. So I think it can work if you have similar goals.

SPEAKER_00 34:57

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 34:58

I think if your timeline comes into who wants a family and I don't know, like I think it can be tricky if you're dating somebody older and you want a family, but they're like already in their mid-40s. Like it's not gonna work. I think an age gap, if it's under 10 years, can be pretty doable regardless. I think as long as both of you just want to be with each other because you really love each other, like I think it can get tricky because the younger person might be looking for someone that's older for money. Right. The older person might be looking for someone that's younger because they're a pervert. Younger, yeah. Like so I think that's where it could get tricky. Right. But otherwise, right. I don't have a problem with it. I think sometimes it can get weird, but I think if yeah, if it's true love, then it's true love. I think what can you do? What can you do in you can't stop anyone from dating people just because of an age gap. Like people are gonna do what they want to do. Right, yeah. But it's also definitely the mindset. If I'm 24, like right now I'm 24, and if I decided to date somebody who is 40, bruh. It's like what do we even have in common? Yeah. I know. Like, truly, what do we even have in? Because they've lived my father's life. Oh, it's like they have like almost too much experience. I'm still in the weight of my life where I get to still learning things and I'm having fun with things, like I'm not ready to be that serious. But like we don't even get to like do life together because you've already done it. Yeah, you've already done it. Like you've already done it now, that's a big difference. Especially like I feel like sometimes the older person has already been married and divorced, like they already have kids and stuff. Right. And then it's like, yeah, you've already done it all. That would be hard. Now I'm coming into it. Now what? Kids like a whole different thing, too. Like, I wouldn't want to take on stepkids at my age. Oh, absolutely no. We're like ever ideally our age. Like my stepdaughter's the same age as me. Like, that's disgusting. Oh, hell no. That's so yeah, you're closer in age to the stepdaughter. Oh god. That's where it gets fucking weird. Oh, I was gonna say, yeah, that I've literally heard that. Yeah, no, it's really weird. It's a little weird. I think, yeah. Like if you could literally be their parent, it's right. Do you consider it an age gap if I was dating like a 29-year-old? Like five years, do you consider that an age gap? Like technically it's an age gap, but I wouldn't be like see it though. Oh my god, age gap. Right. Oh my god, age gap alert. I think anything over like seven or eight years. Then it's an age gap for sure. I think that's like a big thing. No, it is. No, because if you really A newborn and eight years old, right? That's like that's a good one. But it's also like or like an 18-year-old and a ten-year-old. Yeah, exactly. Right. If there's better, yeah. Like if there's ten years different and I'm 60 and you're 70, like 60 to 70, 70 to 80, like that that is a lot of time. Like the difference between an eight-year-old and a 70-year-old is like very significant. It is. I feel like in old people it's kind of hard to tell. Like th like 20 and 30. Like, like when you're middle age, anything from 20 to like 50, like it's fine, but once you start getting older, it's like the age gap becomes more prevalent. And it's like your starts declining. Is your love so strong that you're willing to like potentially lose them when you're in the next few years? Right, because they're older than you. By tomorrow, are you willing to lose them? Yeah, because you start dating when this person's 80, you're like, okay, realistically. Damn. Statistically, they're probably gonna die tomorrow. But like if I started, they're old. Yeah, if they were 70. That's what I mean. Oh, oh, oh. But yeah, it's like if I started dating a 40-year-old, okay, well, that means when I'm 50, they're 70. Like you are literally near, like you were old. You're old. Wait, say that again? If I started dating a 40-year-old right now, so 20 years older than me, when I'm 50, they're gonna be 70. Yeah, I don't like it. When you're 50, that would be insane. Like when my dad turned 50, the two of us ran a half marathon. Like, he's not doing that when he's 70. I mean, maybe initially. Yeah, yeah. You don't know. He could. But like that age gap when you're older too is like significant. Oh, yeah, because you're like basically still getting started. Like I'm in my middle ages. When you're 50s, you're like very well retired. Yeah. Yeah. Retired and you're slowing down and you're slowing. You're old. I think in like some some very rare cases it can work, but overall I do think it's pretty tricky to have an age gap relationship. I I think it's tricky no matter what stage of life you're in. I think probably five years is like a good age gap. Anything on both ends. Yeah. But like to each of their own. Like love is love. Yeah, to each of their own. I mean, I'll I'll judge you, but I'm not gonna stop you. You know what? To each of their own.

unknown 40:06

I love that.

SPEAKER_01 40:07

Um do we have anything else? Let me look. Okay, another write-in. They said, never been insecure until somebody pointed something out that made me feel that way. Oh. That's fucked out. Isn't that crazy? Really fucked. I feel like sometimes it doesn't like come out to like they're not personally sometimes not doing it on purpose. No, but then they clog something and you're like, wait, I didn't even know I felt I didn't know people saw that, and now I feel like a type of way that especially if it's like something about your personality or like something they're doing. Or like your actual features. Right. Or your actual features. What am I supposed to do about the fact that my ears stick out? That's just how they look. Did someone say that? No, I think, well, I don't remember anyone ever saying that to me, but I remember being like low-key a little conscious of them. Like I feel like people would make like jokes. That's me. I do remember though, I was in sixth grade and I was at track, and I'm what how old are you in sixth grade? Fucking eleven. And I remember someone being like, one of the other girls was like, you don't shave your legs. And I was like, You do. Wait, I had this conversation with people too. I was like, I'm literally like 11. Like my leg hair is like practically blonde. I didn't know. Yeah, so then I go home and I'm like, mom, I need to shave my legs. Wait, people are just like I had this experience too. So I was like, I was never insecure until somebody like brought it to me. So I totally get what they're saying. Someone said that to me, but with my armhair, and I was like, Okay, that's I didn't realize shaved their fucking armhair. People do, I know people, I know people. We didn't know that people did that until like I've seen why would you want it all stuck like that? Recently, I've been seeing a lot of people shave their arms. Yeah, a lot of people do. I don't. I don't know. God forbid a girl is Portuguese. God forbid. God forbid. We all have fucking hair on our arms. I don't get it. Our whole fucking bodies. You want me to shave my legs? You want me to shave my cooch? You want me to shave my underarms, and now I also have to worry about my own. Back to what I'm saying about how much effort it takes to just be men. You're actually out of your fucking mind if you think the bare minimum for my arms are because men can be hairy every I mean I guess I don't have to shave any of those things, but now that I have started, it's like I like it. Yeah, yeah, I like shaving my arms. But also it's a um what's that called? It's a beauty standard. It's a beauty standard. Yeah. Yeah. Ugh. Right. It's so we're I feel like we're conditioned to like it. Right.

unknown 42:38

I know.

SPEAKER_01 42:39

The hair will be. Now, what's the other thing about working in the beauty industry is that I like never thought there was anything wrong with my face until I started working and they were. There's nothing wrong with your face. No, well, of course. I don't really think there's anything wrong with my face either. But then they'd be like, well, you could probably use Botox and like maybe lip filler. What did that girl say to you? Dude, one of the nurses we both worked out of Medspa for anyone that doesn't know. And one of the nurses told me, I was like asking her like what I could do. And I think I'm interested in lip filler. I mentioned chin filler, I think, for some reason. And she was like, Oh yeah, we could put some like on the side for your jowls. Oh my jowls out this is what happened. You wanted to get your lips done, and she was like, if you get your lips done, like we also have to do your chin or something like that. We have to overcome it. And I was like, fucking do we? Like, no, you actually don't. I just wanted to try it. And now you're making it. No a young 20 year old could have jowls, so thanks so much for that. Right. Your jowls. I'm pissed. Do they look gorgeous? Like, what do you think? And by the way, I did get little and I didn't get Jinvo, and I think it looks fine. It does. I think it looks perfect. I think to each their own. But yeah, I think. think if there's like a saying where it's like don't say anything they can't fix in five minutes. Yeah. So like if somebody like Well if like a hair was sticking up I'd be like, oh yeah, let's fix it. Just write that down. But like if it's something like your hair, the way your hair grows out of your head is ugly. Or like they did like their face of makeup a certain way and you didn't like it. Like we're out in public at this point I'm not telling you. Right. Unless it's like something that like we can quickly fix. Like I'm not ruining something just because I feel a certain way about it. Maybe you love it. Literally am I gonna make you insecure about something I yeah I never comment on people's bodies or like anything like that. No. No, because it's fucked. Someone said one of my cousin's friends said something to her about her nose one time when they were in like middle school. Dude so I'm about to punch you in yours and you're gonna get to have Owen Wilson in this book. But she's like said a few times that she's like I still remember it and like Yeah because that sticks with you. Yeah it does. That's so mean. I'm trying to think if anyone said any people definitely said stuff to me because I feel like that just happens everywhere. I know it does ridiculous they say stuff and they don't even realize and then you're like you know what though I think they do realize that I think people are back at projecting their own insecurity because they're insecure. Yeah. So I also hate that I hate that so much. That's that's totally naughty yeah that is my second naughty damn okay well should we get into our let's talk it over okay so what is our question of the week so our question was would you rather be with someone who is rich and boring or broke with a personality poll. Pull personality because like we can make money babe we can make it down the road I'm if you have a personality you're gonna be a personality we're gonna do just for somebody just for money. No me either I couldn't do that. That is so miserable like really you can't I just can't be inauthentic that way. No I'm like worse liar I can't shit unless it's a surprise party right yeah it's only time yeah I've never thought about money when I'm dating someone honestly maybe now I would more button right there's like a difference between being like lazy and broke and being like you're still working like if you have zero then like your personality doesn't align with me anyways like that's not gonna work. But like if you're someone who like tries and you're I don't know like it's tough out there right now. No the only thing I think about money now with like relationships is like how much debt they have like yes how much debt you are a very valid question I feel yeah it is like do you have car payments? Do you like do you like are you literally just your money decisions are you irresponsible at the end of the day? Yeah because like if you have a car payment and you have like um student loans like okay yeah like you and you're paying them back and you have your bills and you pay them like that's well because then if you commit to a life with someone it's like okay we're gonna have a home and kids and like we need to be money those are conscious. Money conscious decisions right and you need like I wouldn't want to go into that with someone who bought Cartier glasses just because they thought they could and they actually just put on their credit card. Smart money decisions because that's like what life is about you know you literally have to especially if you want to yeah yeah of course okay what did our people say oh wait what did you guys say you guys both said poor I yeah yeah poor poor streets with my man with my funny man who has a person I think it's also like different for us because like we have families who like if we really were in a tough spot if we had a husband who was like lost his job or something like we have we're very privileged in a way where like people could put us up if we needed it. You're right. So like we wouldn't really necessarily be living on the streets. Right. But close. But but I feel like I would yeah I would want to be with someone that would figure out how to take care of me. No I agree if we were really that broke. Exactly um so 11% said rich 89% said broke. And you know what? Get that bag if that's what you're into get that bag yo to each their own like we said we'll judge you but you know what this is it's giving we won't stop you. But like invite us to your rich house like it's giving age gap. Yeah it is like no sugar gap I don't care that you're 50 sugar mama a lot of money in the mud into it all like okay I'm down yeah oh um wait that's not that's not what we want oh there's nothing else to read on there yeah and that's that that's the people have spoken people have spoken find your true love that's all if they're rich I'll pull if they're rich I'll rich or poor live and imagine all the stuff eighty or ninety. And I recommend going to Planned Parenthood for your IUD yeah maybe you'll get some more medication.10 find me at Sarah Bennett 2s 3Ts and you can find me at Kara Keller pretty much everywhere and you can find us at the talkover pod everywhere as well. 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