Surviving Your Twenties 101

This episode is all about the lessons we’ve picked up in our twenties so far and the realization that we’re still babies in our adult years! We got a 5 year old, 3 year old and an almost 4 year old! We have to remind ourselves that we are all new to adulthood and are all figuring it out in our own way! Here’s to navigating our twenties together!! 

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to the Talk Talk Talk Mover Podcast. Happy Wednesday, welcome back to the pod and welcome to our 1500 bot followers. Yay! This one's pretty guys. Shout out and welcome. We're glad you're here. Gotcha. I am a popular population. We're just only popular with AI. Yeah. No, we woke up on Sunday morning and I go on Instagram and we have 1,500 bots that followed us. We're probably like, okay. Okay, so did one of you buy us followers? Because I don't have a job.

SPEAKER_01 0:39

I'm paying for that. I would never do that.

unknown 0:43

Please.

SPEAKER_00 0:44

I also didn't know that bot followers were like bad for your engagement. Because I was like, do we just keep them? And then Google was like, do not keep. I was like, oh, okay. So then we had to spend three days removing individually each every bot. Yeah, we couldn't just report yes, though.

SPEAKER_01 1:00

So whoever was trying to be really kind, that was really naughty. Yeah. Please. I don't know. Do not do it.

SPEAKER_00 1:05

They knew what they were doing. Right. Oh, we were talking to um Sarah's brother-in-law, and he was like, um, does somebody like not like you guys? Yeah. I was like, okay, if somebody really didn't like us, they would have bought us like 15,000. Like 1500 is just like a minor inconvenience. Like 15,000 would have been a pain in our start again. Yeah. Like that would have been easier. Yeah, no, it was painful. Not to give you fuckers ideas, by the way. We'll find you. We are like trying to go, we're trying everything to get this podcast to work. We're having mic issues, we're having camera issues. And then we can get 1500 bot followers. Like, we will persevere regardless. I hope you people know. Okay? We will be very good. We're gonna keep going despite the universal. To our biggest fan, yet biggest hater. Yeah. They're usually one of the same. Oh. But it could just be random. It it also said that like if we use like certain keywords or whatever, sometimes it triggers bots to follow us. Oh. So like if we used a hashtag or something, like I'm not using hashtags anymore. Hashtags are out. Yeah, well, speaking of wicked naughties, shall we get into our hottie synods? Okay. Alright, do you want to hit us with your first hottie?

SPEAKER_01 2:24

Yeah, I would I would love nothing more. Okay, great. Um so my hottie is the Miley Cyrus, aka Hannah Montana. She's back. She is back. Did you watch it already? I haven't watched it. I've been seeing all these clips and stuff.

SPEAKER_00 2:38

See, I'm confused what it even is, honestly. So it's the 20th anniversary of Hannah Montana. Of Hannah Montana. So I think it's like Alex sits down and like interviews her.

SPEAKER_01 2:48

Basically a podcast. Yeah. And she prepared. It's like, but they do it like they like are back, like in like the studio where they film the show. Like, so it's like their house, like Hannah Montana's house. Right. Yeah. So like, and like all the people like come back and like it's like a whole thing, but it's basically just like a glorified podcast. Like episode.

SPEAKER_00 3:07

Yeah, it's only like an hour long.

SPEAKER_01 3:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:10

Oh. But her fucking outfit at the premiere, like I need that a t-shirt with that standing stuff like that.

SPEAKER_01 3:17

The bedazzle like Hannah Montana shirt. Like, I need that outfit. Yes. Okay, but also, you know, like her like like her like hair, like her iconic. It's actually her hair. Oh yeah. She's waiting what do you mean? Like she didn't like put like Hannah Montana. Yeah. Like she didn't put a wig on. Like that's her. She dyed it? Yeah. Like she just has like clip-ins in. But like it's like her hair. She got the bangs and like the whole thing. Yeah, she feels really good. Learn some Taylor Swift news. Yeah, she's a good one.

SPEAKER_00 3:44

It's the song.

SPEAKER_01 3:45

Yeah. Oh, I did hear about that. I was like, what? Which song was that? In the it's like the end of um the Hannah Montana movie. At the end when they're like, you can change your hair. Oh yeah. Like that wrote that. So good. I was obsessed with that movie growing up. Yeah. Me too. Okay. I was so obsessed with it that was such a great movie.

SPEAKER_00 4:07

Literally her boyfriend in that movie. What the fuck's his name?

unknown 4:10

Travis.

SPEAKER_00 4:11

Yeah, what the fuck's his name? Yeah, it's Travis. You're right. Oh my god. Upset Blonde. Yeah, Blondie. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 4:19

That movie was so Him in a Cowboy hat.

SPEAKER_00 4:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:24

Yeah. Yeah, I love that movie. But yeah, I was just really nostalgic. I like that. I love that show.

SPEAKER_00 4:36

I I don't really I didn't love like anybody else's outfits except. Okay, some people, it was trying to do like 2000s. Oh, Michaela? Michaela, she's not a big one.

SPEAKER_01 4:46

Um she was trying to do something there. It didn't work.

SPEAKER_00 4:50

I just think the color spot. Why do I care that Jojo?

SPEAKER_01 4:54

Jojo missed the mark too.

SPEAKER_00 4:55

She's also she was wearing like a like a glittery jersey.

SPEAKER_01 4:58

Yeah, like that's not Montana at all. Like Alex Cooper, she it was giving like 2000s runway, like when you do like the the like capri jeans and love it, but I understood it.

SPEAKER_00 5:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:09

She also had like the micro scarf on. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:13

I thought it was like a choker. That's why I was like, mm-mm.

SPEAKER_01 5:15

Yeah, no, it was like the like the skinny scarf.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

That is so Han Montana.

SPEAKER_01 5:20

Yeah, like those like runway, like like the premieres were always like they like layered like three shirts, like capris, and like heels. Guys, can we gotta go to a premiere? That should be your birthday theme. Like literally a 2000s premiere, like red carpet. Yeah, red carpet. Yeah, I would love that.

SPEAKER_00 5:39

Yeah, wait. That's a good idea. Well, we're gonna do that for when we get an apartment. We're having our New Year's Eve Met Gala. Perfect. Well, yes.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Right, exactly. Be ready for what's the Met Gala theme this year?

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Um, it's gonna be candy. Don't we camp? They just say random shit and then everyone just dresses. It's so random, yeah. They literally did camp one year and everyone just like it's not camp.

SPEAKER_01 6:02

No, but it's camp. Camp is just like you literally, like, it's like out of the box.

SPEAKER_00 6:05

Yeah, I don't fucking know.

SPEAKER_01 6:07

Wear what you want, make it weird.

SPEAKER_00 6:09

Yeah. Okay, Sarah, who's your hottie? I loved that one already. My hottie is being employed, guys. No! I finally found a fucking job. Yeah! So happy for you.

SPEAKER_01 6:22

Happy and sad. I'm so happy for the money in your pocket. Right. I'm so sad that you have to work for it. I know.

unknown 6:28

I know.

SPEAKER_00 6:29

But it's like a job that I'm like excited about. So like I'm gonna be able to do it. And that's what matters. Yeah. I thought I I really thought for a second I was just gonna have to get a job that I was gonna hate. But yeah. So I'm excited about it. Um I actually have another hobby though. Oh, do you do too? Guys, I went to the dentist yesterday. Oh and my worst. Oh, you're like the dentist.

SPEAKER_01 6:48

I hate the dentist, but do continue.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Okay, I hope it's so I think one of the best compliments you can ever receive is the dentist telling you you take good care of yourself. Oh, I love that. And that's what they told me yesterday. So I think. Of course. Thank you. Oh, I don't wear my retainer. I have more money. But I do not. So sorry. Dude, I lost mine. Shocker. Mine don't fit anymore. Sorry. Yeah, mine probably wouldn't even fit.

SPEAKER_01 7:15

Yeah, they they shifted a little bit, but it's okay.

SPEAKER_00 7:19

Mine are exactly where they were when I got my braces off in the seventh grade. Thank you to my retainer. I think you should be able to flex about too. Thank you. I think they feel very good. Dude, my retainer is like a fucking binky. Like I put it in the corner and it's like, oh, now I can go to bed. I'm a retainer. Yeah, literally. Like I don't go anywhere without her. You know I think about that. Like, if I start seeing someone, I'm like, so can I bring my retainer first night? Or like can I bring it? Or is that a daily? You know what you're right.

SPEAKER_01 7:50

It's up to you. My husband wouldn't run away. They'll have a retainer. They'll love you and your retainer. You're right.

unknown 7:55

You're right.

SPEAKER_01 7:56

Maybe they'll have a retainer. You can see them as a retainer bucket. Wait, I'm not sure. And they're like, oh thank god I can wear my retainer.

SPEAKER_00 8:03

I literally didn't even think of that as a possibility.

SPEAKER_01 8:06

Yeah. He cares about the teeth.

SPEAKER_00 8:08

Literally. My little dream.

SPEAKER_01 8:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:10

Wow. Well, my hottie, if you couldn't tell, is a casual button of it. And we've also been watching Friends. Like that 90s look where people are like dressed nice but in a casual manner. I think we should wear that. I feel like it is slowly coming back. You know who pulls that off? It is Blake Lively. It always pulls off like a casual button. I literally, the only things I know about her are against my will. I know nothing about Blake Lively. Like I've never watched anything with her.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

Yeah, no.

SPEAKER_00 8:36

She's in like a channel.

SPEAKER_01 8:37

Didn't you watch the It Ends with Us?

SPEAKER_00 8:40

Yeah. I never I I watched somebody else watch it on the plane. Like I just watched with no headphones because they were watching it. Honestly, it wasn't that good. Yeah. Well, that's exactly it.

SPEAKER_01 8:51

Well, because it's like I can tell it's like Blake Lively acting.

SPEAKER_00 8:54

Also, she was supposed to be 23.

SPEAKER_01 8:55

She's like, Yeah, I'm like, you're literally a mother. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:58

It wasn't. No, but honestly, like her her style and that sucks. Right. But she can really pull like anything. She pulls off the very like baggy, like casual stuff. Yeah. And I feel like I usually stray from baggy stuff because I I don't know. Like I feel like it doesn't go with my body type, but I've been getting into it a little bit more because I love what it looks like on other people. Yeah. But I feel like in order to look feminine, I'm like, I have to show off like something. And it's like, no, I don't. Yeah. I have literally a woman face. Yeah. Like I'm literally a woman face. That is feminine. It's like exactly.

SPEAKER_01 9:33

What is it like the female gaze like you're dressing like for like people to say, like, I love your outfit, not I love your body.

SPEAKER_00 9:39

Right. So true. So true. That's my hottie. Thank you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:44

That is.

SPEAKER_00 9:45

Love it.

SPEAKER_01 9:46

But yeah, I love that, but I also have a lot of naughtys in my life that I've got to do.

SPEAKER_00 9:49

My god, I was literally about to I was literally about to move on. I forgot. Why do I keep forgetting about the naughtys? Okay.

SPEAKER_01 9:56

My naughty pisses me off.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

Okay. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 9:58

It's a man, of course.

SPEAKER_00 9:59

Uh yeah, duh. Literally duh. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 10:03

Logan Paul.

SPEAKER_00 10:04

He's been a naughty since the dog. Him and his brother.

SPEAKER_01 10:07

I'm so sorry. I I can't. Wait, what is Logan?

SPEAKER_00 10:11

I feel like Jake's been in the public eye.

SPEAKER_01 10:13

Okay, yeah. Jake is like the boxer. Like he's the one who's He's the one who's who fought Mike Tyson. Right. Yeah. And whatever. You're you're fighting a guy in his 60s. Like God.

SPEAKER_00 10:24

I do feel like Mike Tyson like got paid off or something. No, I I'm not sure. Well, yeah, but like he's literally anyone.

SPEAKER_01 10:31

Of course, but like he's literally an old man now. Fighting a guy in his what is he in his 20s? Okay, but like his late 20s?

SPEAKER_00 10:37

Yeah, I think.

SPEAKER_01 10:38

Like big flex, like you know, like that stuff is like hot. Like Mike Tyson in his prime. In his prime would roast your life. Yeah, yeah. But Logan Paul recently off. Okay, so like there was like all so flag football is in the summer Olympics. So they've it's like a new addition. Whatever. So now literally the NFL team is like they're like making a flag football team.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

Flag football? Yeah. Literally, why flag? I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 11:09

So they've been having like they had like a little like tournament basically. Like Tom Brady had a team. Um it's for old Joe Burr had a team.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

It's for Wash up.

SPEAKER_01 11:19

Like, I don't know. So like yeah, and I think um Jalen Hurts had a team. So like they were all like playing, but then like influencers were also like, you know, I show speed I what is it? I show speed, I am speed. That guy speed, guys. No, no idea. He's an influencer, he's like a gamer like influencer guy, but he's like athletic and he was in that, and also Logan Paul was in it. But he's like, and then it's like a bunch of things.

SPEAKER_00 11:45

Yeah, like after that YouTube video in the woods, you know what I'm saying? If we're gonna cancel Taylor Frankie Paul, we need to cancel all of the men that doesn't have to be like literally, oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 11:55

So like it's all like football players, and then it's them too, like in it. And like I should be like, he's like a like an athletic guy, but he's like a nice person. Yeah. But like Logan Paul, he's like talking around being like, I'll beat up anyone in a fight, like you're nothing, like you're shit, like, and then Todd Brady's like, we're playing football. Like, we're not fucking like.

SPEAKER_00 12:18

Also, I am all for shit talking, but there's like a level that you're like, okay, now you're like, But they're like, we're like, you just want to fight for no reason.

SPEAKER_01 12:27

I'm like Well, it's like all the football guys are like, we can't wait to play. Like, we're playing flag football. This is fun. Like, it's fun. Like, we get to be like exactly. Like, we're getting back to like the love of the game, and like look at the game. And like the technique is not just I'll beat up any of y'all, like you ain't shit.

SPEAKER_00 12:44

Like, I hope someone knocks.

SPEAKER_01 12:46

Oh, he's like so hard. The game like already happened.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

Nothing happened. That's why, because he's insecure.

SPEAKER_01 12:52

It's just like I'm like literally why.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

No, because this always happens at my volleyball league. That happens. That's right. There's this one kid that chats hell shit, and he's not good. I'm like, the only reason you're talking is like distracting your abilities. Right. Yeah. And so then I talk shit back, but I actually can fucking put money where my mouth is. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:14

Like literally, you can only talk shit if you play good.

SPEAKER_00 13:17

If not, I actually love when the people are really good, and there's like a couple who are like really good and they're like quiet. And I'm like, you just undercover and you just execute. Like, I love that. You don't even need to say you're not flashy, right? Yeah, love that. Not how I play, but I love it. You don't need to shit talk to you. No, exactly. Um, literally, Jalen Hurts. He's actually, let's talk about him being a hottie because he has a full women's management team. Yeah, he does. Yeah. Love him. And he is not, he's hot and he's unproblematic, and he's quiet. He respects him. He, yeah. I mean, it's a really nice thing.

SPEAKER_01 13:51

I think like Logan Paul was like trying to talk to him, and he's like, literally, who are you? Literally, who are you? I don't know you.

SPEAKER_00 13:58

Like, he's trying to fight him. He's like, Yeah, like the fuck?

SPEAKER_01 14:01

What?

SPEAKER_00 14:01

He's like, my management team would not like that. No. I'm not fighting you.

SPEAKER_01 14:05

No.

SPEAKER_00 14:07

Naughty, Sarah. My naughty was um the bots. Yeah, sorry to ruin your naughty. No, it's okay, but let me see. I have like other stuff written down. Okay, this is also naughty. People that like don't ask for help or like can't ask for help, but then they're just trying to know why it makes me so angry. I think I'm guilty of this sometimes too, because I've like I don't want to bother people by asking for help. But if it's like someone A lot of times they want to help. That's what I yeah, that's what I mean. Because I'm like, I see you trying to do all these things around me, and I'm like, why don't you just ask me to do something? Right. Because I don't know what you need. Yeah. And then also, like, I don't like when people get mad when they expect you to like ask. Or like you helped it. They don't know what they're intercepted.

SPEAKER_01 14:54

I'm like, not too. Literally, like, what do you want me to say? Like, I don't know what you want to do. No, I can do it to help you.

SPEAKER_00 15:00

Yeah, I'm like, okay, but you don't have to do it. That's the difference. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah, so that's my naughty. That is naughty.

SPEAKER_01 15:06

It is so naughty.

SPEAKER_00 15:07

I know I have a couple, but um, let's see. I have one that says 40-hour work week, so sorry. Your naughty is my naughty. Yeah. But I probably will have to be living that life soon. Oh, hopefully. I'm so wrong, though. I really do. I do think.

SPEAKER_01 15:22

I honestly think we need like a three-day weekend.

unknown 15:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:25

Or like Wednesday off. Like, I would rather work longer days on Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday, Friday. Yeah. And have like a day off.

SPEAKER_00 15:32

Literally, why are we adding time? Like 32 hours is plenty of time to get shit done. Because most of the time you're just talking to co-workers or like hanging out. Um everybody working. I think I'm working for you.

SPEAKER_01 15:44

I'm like, how many hours do I work?

SPEAKER_00 15:46

Eight hours.

SPEAKER_01 15:47

I try not to pay attention.

SPEAKER_00 15:48

Yeah. No, but my um actual naughty is people who call their pet their child. That's not your kid. Yeah. That's literally not your kid.

SPEAKER_01 15:57

That's an animal.

SPEAKER_00 15:58

Sorry.

SPEAKER_01 15:59

Yeah, well, my dad's like, say bye to your brother. I'm like, that's my kid.

SPEAKER_00 16:02

Okay, right. That's actually funny. Yeah. Like I get that, but like when You're like, no, it's weird. But like you all he also has actual kids. That like when. Oh yeah. Like me having a pet and being like, I'm a mother. No, you're not. No, you're not. You're not. I'm sorry. You're literally not.

SPEAKER_01 16:21

But I will be an auntie.

SPEAKER_00 16:24

Right.

SPEAKER_01 16:26

Hannah's cat, we're aunties.

SPEAKER_00 16:28

I didn't even, the cat wouldn't even come out.

SPEAKER_01 16:31

Yeah, I said I saw a glimpse of it. He's scared of me.

SPEAKER_00 16:34

He only likes his mom. Oh. His mother. Cool.

unknown 16:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:40

I think, yeah, I like I get it, I guess. Like, I would say that the Hannah's the mother, but like if she was like, oh, I have to like my kids at home. Oh. I don't know if you're not.

SPEAKER_01 16:51

In a joking tone, I think it's funny.

SPEAKER_00 16:53

I think, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:54

I gotta go home to my baby.

SPEAKER_00 16:56

Like, get serious about people. People are so serious.

SPEAKER_01 17:00

Yeah, because then they'd be putting them in clothes and like uh literally not.

SPEAKER_00 17:04

You're just walking them in strollers. Yeah. It's like, let the happen.

SPEAKER_01 17:09

I like a little joke, but like please.

SPEAKER_00 17:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:12

You did not give birth to funny.

unknown 17:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:14

What did I say? Like our actual mothers. Oh, it's fine. Whatever. Let them let me. Let them. As Mel Robbins once said. Let them let me. Okay. Alright. We should move on to our topic. We have a really hard one.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

There will be tears, laughter, joy.

SPEAKER_00 17:35

I'm not gonna die. I have mascara on. Okay, guys. So our topic this week, we thought we would write down like a few things we've all learned being in our 20s so far. Because I feel like 20s is such like a it's just like a decade where you learn so much about yourself. I think you learn a lot about yourself and others. And your frontal lobe is developing, and so we want to talk about that. You kind of like finally come into like yourself as a person. Because like in high school, in college. You're kind of just like going with whatever. And then all of a sudden you're like, this is my own life. I can do what I like. Exactly. And I can figure out what I like.

SPEAKER_01 18:15

And I do feel like we are still like basically like in the infancy stages of our adult life. Like we're like, I'm three years into my adult life. Like I'm three years old.

SPEAKER_00 18:25

Right. Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:26

You're the youngest person ever. You know, but it's like I've only been adult for three years.

SPEAKER_00 18:31

Yeah. Yeah. Like I know. It does make me feel better when I watch like shows and they're like literally 27 at the beginning of the show.

SPEAKER_01 18:38

I'm like, I have so much time.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

I know like that in friends.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

Like, aren't they like all like in their late 20s? Like when the show starts. Like they all look together.

SPEAKER_00 18:46

They're like in their 30s. Yeah, they're literally in their 30s. Like I've been. It makes me feel very good. Yeah. Oh my god, we have so much time.

SPEAKER_01 18:52

I feel like a lot of people in their 20s is like feels very rushed. Like to do that. I feel that way. Yeah. And it's like, we're literally three years old.

SPEAKER_00 19:03

They're like an anomaly. No. Yeah. Like I don't think people I don't think really anyone ever figures it out. But no, I don't think so because you're always like evolving. But like even like our parents are in their 50s and they're stri still trying to figure out like what's next. Of course. Yeah, I don't think it ever ends. No, it doesn't. Which is I think that's the beauty of it. I love that too. It's like scary because you don't know. Right. But there's always something to look forward to. Who wants to talk first? I'll go first. I think you can go me. Go oldest to youngest. Yeah. Okay. I'm 25. I'm only five years old. Yeah. Wait, I love this. Yeah. Oh, okay. This is I think this is one of the biggest things I've learned because I'm like someone that like I keep things in and I don't really share that much about myself voluntarily. But I've learned like either. I know as I'm like have a podcast.

SPEAKER_01 19:55

Yeah. Talk about your whole life.

SPEAKER_00 19:58

Yeah. No, I don't do that at all. So something like big is to tell your friends everything because they want to know. I agree. I feel like this applies to like relationships, I feel like a lot. Because like toxic relationships, like you want to try to like hide things and like, but I think the best thing to do is just like literally be honest. Like tell them everything. Because they want to know. They want to help you and support you. Yeah. And it might get tiring if they keep coming to you and like asking for advice and but like they still want to know. Yeah. They know they're there for you. And they can't help you if they don't know. Yeah. And like if you feel like you need to hide something from your friends, you're probably doing something wrong. Like you're probably doing something or you're in a situation that you shouldn't be.

SPEAKER_01 20:39

And I feel like you probably know that.

SPEAKER_00 20:41

Yeah, and you know that's why you don't want to tell anyone. Actually, somewhat, actually, we'll get into that later. Yeah. It's also our question of the week, so we'll tell you guys what everyone else said. Yeah. But we wanted to like give you guys our input. Yeah. We were on the stage first. Because we were like, we actually have too much to talk about to make it just the question. Okay, so mine, I am only three years old. I'm actually, I'm actually almost four years old. My birthday is less than a month away. I don't know if you guys know this about me, but birthdays are like my fucking favorite. What? So I'm three and a half. Three and three quarters. Oh. Pretty much three in 11 months.

unknown 21:19

Bro.

SPEAKER_01 21:20

She's almost wearing fourtees.

SPEAKER_00 21:22

I'm almost in the 40s. Yeah. Okay. So I wrote, This is the youngest you'll ever be, but also the smartest you've ever been. So try everything. See what sticks. Yes. Because like you feel like you're running out of time. I feel like I always feel that way, but like this is this is the like the oldest I've ever been right now, but and the smartest I've ever been. Of course. And it's the youngest I'll ever be. Like I'm just gonna get older, so I might as well just keep trying things because I have plenty of time. It's like I have to remind myself of that. Like I'm only three years old. Yeah. Don't because I I feel like I've tried I've been trying To try a lot of things. I tried a podcast, I've had a small business, I've worked full time, I've tried YouTube. Like I'm trying to see what sticks and what I like and what it could be like a long-term thing. So I just feel like I need other people should be encouraged to try stuff. And like if you fail in five literally next year, you're not even gonna remember.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

When you fail, you're learning stuff.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

That's like the whole point. You're supposed to fail a million times until you're never gonna learn if you don't fail. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 22:29

So well that like goes into mine. I was like trying to like I'm sorry, how old are you? Oh, yes. I I am freshly three years old. Um, but yeah, like I feel like it's like hard to like put into words sometimes like the feelings of being in your 20s. Like there's a lot of conflicting emotions because you feel like you're supposed to be somewhere, you're looking at other people, right?

SPEAKER_00 22:54

Like there's a lot of people. The comparison in your 20s is big too. It's really big. Because every like people are accelerating, people are like stuck, people are exactly.

SPEAKER_01 23:03

And there's so many things that happen in everyone's life that is different from others. Like so I was I saw this quote, it says rejection is just redirection.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 23:14

Like agreed, which is like, you know, like in that like goes like for mistakes, things that you tried and didn't succeed, relationships, like failed career paths, like whatever. Like, you know, you you tried one thing, and it and that's okay. And it's you weren't rejected. Yeah, you weren't rejected, you didn't fail. It's just that didn't work out, and now that's leading you on a different path to somewhere.

SPEAKER_00 23:39

It's like the butterfly effect. Like, if this didn't happen, then you wouldn't be here. Right.

SPEAKER_01 23:42

Exactly. Like, there's a lot of things where I'm like, okay, like what would what if that that happened, or what if I stayed there. You know, but it didn't, and now like, you know, like it it all happened for a reason. Right. I think it's a good idea. And I don't know what would have happened if I stayed there, but I wouldn't have had all the things. I also don't need to know since exactly. Yeah. And I think that's like there's beauty in not knowing what happens.

SPEAKER_00 24:05

I think sometimes ignorance is bliss. Yeah. I don't really know. I literally don't need to know.

SPEAKER_01 24:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:11

It's the same thing like with relationships. If you figure out like one little thing and you're like, okay, this is redirecting me. Like, I don't really need to know everything else that also happened. Yeah, I'd rather just try. Yeah, it's so true. This little thing already redirected me. I don't need to hurt my feelings. Yeah, like it's already done, it's over. Yeah. I'm just gonna keep going.

SPEAKER_01 24:28

I was seeing that, like, it is like I don't need to know everything that's ever happened in your life. No. Like, I like some people are like that where they want to know everything about a person. Right. Yeah. But like honestly, I don't need to know everything.

SPEAKER_00 24:40

And honestly, like in a relationship. Yeah. Like, I feel like that's a good thing. It's also nice like figuring it out like down the road. Like leave it. Ten years down, you're like, I literally did not know that about you. Like, that's it.

SPEAKER_01 24:50

I did not know you were in the marching band for five. Or whatever.

SPEAKER_00 24:53

Like, you know, like stupid things.

SPEAKER_01 24:55

But yeah, I don't know. I just feel like it's it's you're on the path that you're supposed to be. Like things are doing.

SPEAKER_00 25:02

I keep reminding myself of that every time I get a rejection from a job. I'm like, I know I'm on the right path, and I'm keep getting turned down because the right job is supposed to, or like the right path, whether it's like a full-time job or something else comes up, whatever. Right. It will find me. It's just a matter of time. Because I'm doing the right things, I'm applying. It's not like I'm just sitting around and waiting for life to happen to me. Like I feel like I'm out there trying to make a life. Yes. Things are gonna happen for you. Right. It's all gonna happen quick. I feel like it's like there's a lull period and then everything happens. That's how you feel.

SPEAKER_01 25:36

I feel about you. Like, I know like you're stressed about like finding a career and such, but like I know, like I like am not stressed at all. Okay, perfect. Like you you always like talk about your stress, but like I'm like, she's gonna get a job, there's gonna be unlimited PTO, amazing pay, and they're gonna pay her to travel. Yeah, exactly. Oh my gosh, I know it's I know it's gonna happen. It's just a matter you're just getting all these out of the way. They know it's not yeah, they're like that's not for you.

SPEAKER_00 26:02

I feel like you can feel in your gut like when it's right for you. Yeah, yeah, you're right. And I just know it's gonna be. I feel it in my gut. Oh, okay. In your overall, in your overall. My ovaries actually told me that this is the real thing.

SPEAKER_01 26:15

They told you to apply for this job.

SPEAKER_00 26:16

Wait, I love. Yeah. Thank you, Ovaries. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, thank you. Seriously. Okay, back to our five-year-old. Yes, yes, yes. Okay, yes. Something else, this I think you've said something about birthdays. Something I wrote down was show up for people's birthdays. It's literally one day a year. So true. I my biggest pet peeve is making excuses for birthdays. You can't go. I understand if like you have a prior obligation, like you didn't know what was going on or whatever. Well, like honestly, a happy birthday text. I know Happy Birthday text, send a damn letter. Like literally send me a card. Yeah. Literally, like it's not that hard to make someone feel special on their birthdays, and I think even people that say their birthday isn't that important, it's important to they're lying. But like literally one day a year where like people, it's like an excuse for people to tell you that they're not going to be able to do it. Why they love you. Yes. I love that. And that was kind of my goal last year for my birthday. I had like a dinner party, yeah, and I invited like everybody over, and we had like a big party in the backyard. That was really nice. I like wrote cards for everybody because I was like, you guys always show up for me. I feel like I'm somebody who has like a lot of occasions. Yeah, there's always like something going on or like I'm inviting people to. And like my people always show up. And that's like huge. Exactly. Like that doesn't happen for everybody. So I felt like I needed like not only is it a day for people to be like showing me love, but like I also wanted to show that like you guys always show up for me, even when it's like it might be silly to you. Like my brother, he like always does something. Like we go to the bars or something for his birthday, but he's not like he could really care less. Yeah. But he always plays into like my birthday and he knows it's important. Like my cousin Liam drove down like three hours for my birthday with his girlfriend. Like, they show up because they know it matters to me. Yes, and like even if it doesn't matter to them, they know it matters to me.

SPEAKER_01 28:04

But those who are your real friends and family will do that.

SPEAKER_00 28:07

They will say, Yeah, yeah. Like, same thing, like people move all the time, like our cousins and stuff, and like I it's not fun for me to help people move, but because it's them starting a new chapter, I'm gonna be there. Yeah, you're gonna be able to do that. I will drive with you across the fucking country to Alaska if that's what you want to do. Like, I just want to make your life easier and show that I'm excited for you. Yeah, yeah. I love yeah, I guess like any like big occasion like that, I think just showing up for people, like it's really not that fucking hard. No, it's not, and I think that's how you create a village, and that's something that people create, but they have a hard time. They're like their boundaries or like all these stupid excuses. Like man the fuck up. Actually, woman the fuck up. Yes, grow some ovaries and like show up for other people. Like, if you want a village, you have to be a villager. Yes, so you do. Yeah, I had like friends that would like always make excuses, not necessarily for my birthday, but like other people's birthdays. And it would for like there was we had this friend that like I wasn't as close to, but like this other girl that we were friends with was closer to. Yeah. I showed up for her birthday, and this other friend made an excuse to not go. Girl, like she was literally doing nothing. Like how rude. Like, literally remember that. That's all. Yeah, because it's just like shitty, especially if you're just literally doing nothing else. That's like intentional though. It's intentional, that's fucked up, yeah. She was just like selfish, I guess. Like entitled to be able to do that. Well, that's the problem, is that yeah, people like I understand like you yourself is the most important person in your life, but you can't be yourself without everybody else around you. Yeah. So, like, although you can sometimes be selfish, oh my god, like I'm having a hard day, like I don't want to go. You made a commitment, you can sleep when you get home. Like you're fine. I understand there's certain circumstances where maybe you do need to, like, it's okay every once in a while, but like you do have to show up for your people. Yeah, even if you're tired, even if they do that for you. Yeah, yeah. That's like one of the biggest things. No, I totally agree. Okay, what else did I write? Um this one is kind of similar to my last one, but I said we're only this hot and this free for so long. Like, we don't have partners, we don't have children, like we have jobs, but like we also don't pay rent. Like right now, we are as free as we can be. Like, there's nothing holding. We like don't stay in a job that you hate. Like, don't be somewhere you don't want to be. Like, all you have right now is money, time, and freedom. Like, yeah, spend money on travel, like, spend money on going and trying things if you're in a city. Like, I just feel like you shouldn't be somewhere where you don't want to be. Yeah. I and like you're so free right now, you're not stuck, is what yeah. Like at the end of the day, like, there's no man tied to you right now, there's no children you have to care for. If you feel like a man is holding you back, get rid of him. Yeah. Right, I agree. Because like you can be free, obviously, in marriage and like with children, but like right now. You have full autonomy because you don't have any commitments.

SPEAKER_01 31:11

Well, that's what it is, it's commitments. Like, it's like the only commitment we have now is the job, the podcast, and yourself. Right. Like, I don't have to like I don't have to worry about like, oh, I'm gonna travel, oh, oh, I have to still pay my bills for my house. Yeah, and for my car.

SPEAKER_00 31:27

Oh, I can't go on that trip because I have the child. My child has this event. So much freedom right now. I think it's important to utilize it. Yes. Like your 20s is so important. It's so important. Oh my god. I don't want it to be over. No. And like I feel like my parents are heavy on that. Like, they just want me to like live and do everything that I want to do because like they tried to do that for themselves. Yeah. And they they're like, we want you to be able to do it. And like I would want that for my kids, like when I'm older and I have kids. Like when they're in their 20s, I'm gonna be like, stay young forever. Yeah, please. Do whatever you're overeached. I know. Yeah, trust yourself. Yeah, it's not your day. Right. Gross, yeah. I feel like we're we're not, we don't have that much wisdom yet, but we know ourselves a little bit better. So I think like you know where you're supposed to be and what's not working.

SPEAKER_01 32:16

We have like adolescent wisdom. Right. Like we have wisdom for the teenage years. Yeah. So we have 23 years of wisdom. Right. Literally.

SPEAKER_00 32:26

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 32:27

That's only I mean, I have younger cousins and they talk to me. It's like wisdom. I I have been in middle school where this friend group and this friend group are clashing. Yeah. Like, you know, or I, you know, that you're stressed about a high school dance. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:40

But like you also, like, to people who are like fresh out of college, like, we have wisdom to share. Like, don't worry. You're gonna find something like that.

SPEAKER_01 32:48

Exactly. That like rolls into my like other thing. I was I was reading this thing, and it was like, chain change is scary, but also being the same is scary.

SPEAKER_00 33:00

It's so scary. That's yeah, that's way scary.

SPEAKER_01 33:02

Like, I would hate to just live in this repetitive cycle forever. Yeah, right. And it's like, yeah, like change is scary. Like, I remember like I like was a nanny, like, for like literally majority of my working years, and I remember like my last day, like I like sobbed. Yeah, like I was like, it I remember like telling them like I was so afraid to like stop. Like, I remember like not like being afraid to like search for jobs, and like something like that. I felt so comfortable, and I know I was like doing a good job. It's the unknown, and I was just scared that like ready for something. Like, I was ready and I knew that I would do well, but it's so scary, like changing from something you're so familiar with. Right, it's but it's like now I'm like you know, succeeding and I've met people and it's so nice, but it's like I would have known that. It's sad.

SPEAKER_00 33:52

Like leaving a chapter behind. It is, and I feel like that's part of the importance. I feel like I'm in that weird purgatory right now where like I'm craving change. I just haven't found the one thing that's gonna make that change. Like I'm ready to move out, I'm ready to have a job. And it's like these things I have to like wait on other people for, which is like so painful, but like I also have to make sure while I'm in this weird stage that like I'm doing stuff in my with my own abilities to make the change that I want. Yeah, like I'm applying to jobs, I'm trying a podcast, like I'm trying to do other things that are in my control because not everything's in my control. Exactly. That's a hard pill to swallow. That's the hardest pill to swallow. It really is. But you know what?

SPEAKER_01 34:37

I feel like I feel like you're putting yourself on a path to set that change up for success.

SPEAKER_00 34:41

Yeah, I'm really craving that fucking change, dude. Also changing, I'm really craving that weather change right about. Yeah, oh no. It's starting to get like a lit, like it's like 40s out. I'm like, wow, it's so hot out here. It's like it'll get cold out. I know when the sun's out, it's just deceiving though. The air is cold. I'm gonna lose my mind when it's cloudy. I know I can't. I've really never experienced seasonal depression. Like I've lived in New England for 24 years now. But the other day when it was cloudy, I was like, there's nothing good. Everything sad. Everything, yeah. I'm like, I have nothing going for me, everything sucks. And I'm like, and then I'm like talking to myself, I'm like, you were literally fine yesterday, and nothing has changed since then. It's just cloudy. No, but I feel like get it together.

SPEAKER_01 35:26

No, that's so because when I do get the glimpse of the heat and like the warmth, I'm like, and then it's cold the next day.

SPEAKER_00 35:33

I'm pissed in January when it was like 60 degrees. Oh yeah, it's spring. Yeah. Literally, we've had one day. We got a blizzard like this. I know. Yeah, it was like snowing.

SPEAKER_01 35:43

I know. No, it pissed me off because now I'm like real, I'm like, now it's like clicking in my head. I'm like, I've been white for way too long. Yeah, like I am so pale. Like, I'm so pale. And I'm like, I'm craving. Because now I'm like, oh, I could wear shorts soon or whatever, and I'm like, I don't want my white legs out on the top.

SPEAKER_00 35:59

I'm sick of wearing sweaters. Like, I am so sick of my wardrobe, I need a change. Because I need to wear my summer stuff. Well, yeah, it's like I want to wear like a button-up windows, but I'm like, I'm fucking cold. Okay, in my 20s, I have learned that sunshine, fresh air, and exercise will change everything. It really does. Literally, if I'm feeling sad, if I go on a walk, I'm like, wow, everything's fine. Me too. If I wake up and I'm like feeling like just unmotivated. I work out and I'm like, what was our son of this? Beautiful. Yeah. I feel better. Yeah, I I yeah. Like the site, it's all like how much it changes. It's all the most basic things, like feeding yourself right, drinking water, getting sunlight. Like, we are basic creatures at the end of the day, and we just need to. I feel like with phones and stuff now being so prevalent, like it's never been such a big deal in people in their 20s until now. It's like stop rotting in bed. Get doing it. I do not want to hear that you're sad and depressed, and whatever. If you're not doing anything, like if you're your big and you're just on your phone scrolling, watching other people live their lives. Yeah, like no wonder you're depressed. No, fucking wonder. We are like, oh, I wish I had that.

SPEAKER_01 37:15

Or I wish I was going to be like, then what are you doing to make that happen?

SPEAKER_00 37:18

Yeah, get the fuck up and work, right? And that's what Kim said. Who? Kim Kardashian. She's like, get the fuck up and work. You people are lazy. She did say that. And she's you know what? I agree. Because you need to make the life that you want. Yeah. So go fuck. I've been feeling this way because like I I don't know why. I had like so many reasons to eat out last week. And I was like, why do I feel like shit? I'm like, oh, because I literally haven't cooked a single meal. Yeah, I feel like shit. Dude, I was sitting in a restaurant before we even ate anything, and I literally I was like, I'm gonna like throw up or something. Like, I don't want to see another restaurant. Well, I also wasn't working out that last week and I wasn't drinking my tea. Because I was ill. And I was like, oh, that's why. No. And then I got my period. So it was like everything at once. Yeah. No, but I think if you just feed yourself and you You're literally a apple a day, guys. Literally. I'm so dead out. Yeah. I just showed her apples for the first time. What is this? No, I'm like, you're a peach. It's like an apple. It's an apple. I was like an apple hater and then What? Yeah, then Kara was cutting them up in Maine, and I'm like, this is kind of good.

SPEAKER_01 38:32

Dude, apples and peanut butter.

SPEAKER_00 38:34

Yeah, that's what we do in Maine, and that shit would slap.

SPEAKER_01 38:38

I melt the peanut butter too. Oh, it's a good idea. Because sometimes it's a lot of work. Yeah, sometimes I'd be like scooping it. And then it slides off because the apple breaks. Or breaks. I'm not eating it. I don't want it. I'm old. It redirected me, and now I'm having a piece of chocolate. You know what? Yeah, that sounds better. So you know what? It didn't want me to have that.

SPEAKER_00 39:00

Yeah. No, but I just think, yeah. You have anything else? I wrote a few. Fucking apple and some sunlight. Like you're a plant. You need water and sunlight. Go photosynthesize. Get out there. Literally. Like that's literally what you have to do. Actually. Recharge. I know. Let me see. Do I have anything else to add? Um, oh, I wrote that it only matters what I think and if I'm happy. Which, yes, also, like, including like your people. Yeah. But like outside noise, I feel like a lot of people are like, oh, I'm not gonna try that in case like so like that bitch from high school, no one cares like what she like. Why do you care what she thinks? Let them.

SPEAKER_01 39:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 39:34

Let them know. Like, I'm gonna try this because she's a bitch. Like I hate that girl. Like, literally, don't have anyone in mind. Yeah, I hate her. But yeah. Yeah, but I I just feel like worrying about what other people you're never gonna hear it. That's the thing. Like, they could say whatever the hell they want in the world. It's like you're never gonna know. Yeah. And I think they could also be saying really good things, but you're telling yourself that they're hating. But you can also be telling yourself that they love it. That is some of my favorite things is when people you don't like even think about, like they'll slide up on my Did you hear that? Literally, I'm still like a little contested. What? Did you snore?

SPEAKER_01 40:15

It was like I don't even a like a literally front.

SPEAKER_00 40:19

Is living in there this week. Oh, Kermit, what are you doing in here? I don't even know what I was talking about. Um I honestly you love it. You love it. Oh, I love it when people that like aren't really like they're kind of just like people you know. Yes. And they'll like slide up on your story and be like, I love watching you get to travel, like you're so cool. And it's like sometimes I'm like worried about what my life is, and other people are want my life. Yeah. And then like vice versa. Like the people that I be like, wow, they have the coolest life, they probably have these struggles, and I'm like, they are living my dream. Yeah, yeah. So it's like remember that your life is a lot cooler than you probably. I think so. It is.

SPEAKER_01 40:56

Well, I also like said, like, it's it takes like no effort to be happy and just have joy and just be happy for other people. It's so hard to be miserable. It's so hard to just be miserable. You have to put in work to be angry and upset. Like, of course, there's like you're gonna have those feelings, but like if you're just like that all the time, like you're like putting yourself, like you're you're allowing yourself to feel like that.

SPEAKER_00 41:16

And like it's a lot of work to be angry. Just let it be. This is the same thing with like the lucky mindset, guys. I think if you feel like you're lucky and you feel like good things are gonna happen to you, they're gonna happen. I feel like that's gonna always work out for me. Lucky streak right now, guys. Okay, yeah, you are. I don't know what it is, but all of these like giveaways and shit, I'm winning them all. Like, because I'm like, nobody else is gonna do this because they they think that they don't have a chance to win, so nobody's applying for it. And so then I'm that bitch that's like I'm gonna do it, and then I win. I have won free floor seat concert tickets to Country Fest at Gillette Stadium. Yep. I have won my money back for skydiving for um paragliding in the Swiss Alps. Yep. I have literally just recently won a free dry bar blow dry brush and three free sweatshirts from like this fancy New England brand. Yeah, but what else have I won? I don't know. My heart. Yeah, I just feel like if you think good things are gonna happen, they are. Yes. And like the better. I always have felt that way. I'm like, it's going to work out. And then oh, the other thing was that I went to um get ice cream the other day and I ordered a pint of ice cream and they didn't charge me for it. Yeah, literally what? Literally didn't charge me, so I got a free fucking pint of ice cream. Like, I just think good things happen when you feel like they're gonna, and then you're not surprised when right. Oh my god. My uncle and his girlfriend, they'll like play games with each other, and like she's like, whenever I win, I just tell him it's because I'm a good person. Like, that's why I win, because I'm a good person. I was like, wait, I'm taking it. Well, you really do attract like whatever your mindset is. I agree. I think if you're miserable, you're gonna attract miserable people. You're gonna make yourself be stuck at a job, you're gonna listen to sad music.

SPEAKER_01 43:08

Yeah, you surround yourself with like-minded people. Yeah, and like my like you obviously like I'm not gonna be like s going to a bar all the time because that's not what I want to surround myself with. Right. Like, I'm gonna go to like things and events that like I like and bring joy. Yes, yeah, and like I know that like-minded people are gonna be there.

SPEAKER_00 43:25

Yeah, it's like those people who are like they stub their toe and it's like, of course it's me. This would happen, this would happen. It's like, yeah, they get in like a fender mender, like, of course, my life sucks. Because if you're the victim of your own life, then everything's gonna be the worst day. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 43:38

But I do want to know how our audience is living in the life.

SPEAKER_00 43:41

Yeah, we need to talk about that. Okay, let's get let's let's talk it over.

SPEAKER_01 43:44

Let's do it.

SPEAKER_00 43:48

Okay, so I think our question of the week, what did it say exactly? Yeah, so our question was what's the most important thing you learned in your 20s? Yeah. Um I'm so happy with how many people responded because I know a lot of people. Resonate with this.

SPEAKER_01 44:01

And there's really good, like outside of the box, like opinions that people have. Like, not like, oh, like try new things, blah blah blah.

SPEAKER_00 44:08

Yeah, like we know.

SPEAKER_01 44:09

Yeah, but we we've been doing this since we were five years old. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 44:14

Okay, let me read one and we'll just go around. Okay, but okay. This one says friendships take effort. They might look different as time goes on, but if you enjoy their company and them in your life, then you need to set aside time for them. And that's pretty much what we were talking about. Like be a villager, make time for your people. Make time for your friends. Love that. Yeah. Okay, you go. Oh, okay. So let's see. Prioritizing experience experiences over money in your bank account. Yes. Yes. The money will come back. On that as well. Yeah. I mean, don't fucking put yourself in debt. Never put yourself in debt, but like you spend within your means. But I also think it's more important to go on that trip than have an extra grand in your bank account. Personally. Or like have regrets.

SPEAKER_01 44:57

Regret that you didn't get it.

SPEAKER_00 44:58

Yeah, exactly. Because in the you're you can you can't bring the money with you when you die. Yeah, you can. Yeah. You can bring the experience. You can.

SPEAKER_01 45:08

Um, so this person said, if you feel like you can't tell your best friend something, you probably are doing something you shouldn't be, or that's not your best friend. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 45:18

Oh, that second part is so really good. Like if you feel like you're gonna be judged and like put down. Yeah. That's so true.

SPEAKER_01 45:26

Like if you feel like you can't tell them, you're judgmental of your friends.

SPEAKER_00 45:30

Yeah, like if they're like, oh I feel like that's something I'm working on because sometimes like I don't even realize that like I'm saying something. Like if someone's trying to tell me something and I'm like, well, why would you do that? It's like, well, how about you just let them talk first? Why would you do that? Yeah, I'm like, are you your own worst enemy? Like, why are you doing that? It's like maybe there's something else going on. Yeah. Yeah. So I have to remind myself of that too. Yeah, I think just being open and being like, okay, this is you're really good about that. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, thank you. I mean, you both are. Oh my god, thank you. Okay, this one I really like. It says, work on not being embarrassed. It's okay to make mistakes and to have people laugh at you to not get you. It makes for deeper connections and life more fun. And I totally agree. To be cringe is to be free. So true. Like it's and that was the other thing we were talking about. Like, don't not do something because you're afraid of what someone else thinks. Like, who fucking cares? Who cares? Again, you're not gonna hear them. Weird is cool. Dude, I've been weird since the dawn of time. Like, I'm not new to this and I'm not planning on stopping. I did used to care a lot more what people are. Oh, but now I'm just like, what it's it's holding me back if I keep thinking about you think it's weird, right? Yeah, yeah, it's weird, but it's fucking funny. Are either parents the type who are like they're just jealous of you or they're like you don't know what's going on in their life, that's why they're being mean. Like, what type of parents do you have? I would say the second one. I would say be party. But they've never really said either. Like they, I don't know. Yeah. Well, my friends are. I was never told like they're just jealous of you. Oh they never said.

SPEAKER_01 46:58

No, my parents were more like, be yourself, like you're really funny. Yeah. Like who cares if people think you're weird? Right. I feel like my parents are heavy.

SPEAKER_00 47:06

They're just like insecure a little bit more, they're gonna act however they're gonna act.

SPEAKER_01 47:10

My parents were like, Why are you like surrounding yourself with those type of people? Right. Like, your people are gonna think you're funny. Like they're not gonna think you're weird. No, like they're also gonna be like with you.

SPEAKER_00 47:19

I've actually never been concerned about that being like weird or perceived like that. And then like one person will say something and you're like, You're like, You actually think that? Like, I've never even considered that I could be coming off as like weird or like whatever. Oh, yeah. And then someone will say something and I'm like, Oh. I never thought that you guys would think that about me. No. I was in college, if you don't remember, like, I'm I'm sarcastic, and this girl was like, I can never tell if you're joking, like, you're so monotone. I'm like, monotone. I'm never maybe I'm just not myself around you because okay, see, I think that's a case of her being jealous because I don't think I've never once thought that. I told Hannah that the other day, and she was like, You're the most unmonotone bitch. I'm aggressive. I feel like I'm very shallant. Nonchalant. I'm chalant. I'm like non nonchalant. You know, I'm just like, um, yeah, I never thought about like people, like, I think you just need to know who you are and yeah, people the pe the right people will you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. So exactly. I think if you're not being cringy, you're gonna attract the wrong person. How fucking you're just not yourself, you're gonna attract people into your life that aren't supposed to be there. Oh, I know. I'm a little personality. Be a little funny. Well, I've never like heard you guys say something and been like, why the fuck did you say that? You're weird. Like I would never say that to anyone. I know, seriously. And then and then I start to now that I'm older, it's less like they're jealous of me, and it's more like clearly something is going on that they're struggling with and they're taking it on me. Like it's not a reflection of me in the slightest. Yeah, yeah, no. Yeah, never. Okay, who's next? Um so this one said, as someone entering my 20s this year, I hope I still know it's okay to not take things so seriously. She said something else because she didn't get to finish. I was gonna say not to take things so seriously, and it's okay not to be in the same place as everyone else, because it's not. Yeah, it's heavy on that. Yeah, she's only 19. Oh, and she's already so wise. She is so wise. Seriously, like um, I call her to for advice. Yeah. She's six years younger than me. Love you. You know?

SPEAKER_01 49:27

No, but they have a different perspective.

SPEAKER_00 49:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 49:30

You know? They do, and sometimes that's like really nice. Like someone who's like outside of what you're experiencing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 49:36

Well, I was thinking that too when we were talking about like having wisdom. Like, I've been through things that even like older people in my life have not been through. Like, and I can share that wisdom. Like, it really doesn't matter about age, it's more like the experiences.

SPEAKER_01 49:48

And that's why it's good to have different timelines and different experiences.

SPEAKER_00 49:52

It is, and like you don't want to have the same life as everyone. Like, how boring. It's so boring. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 49:57

Boring. No, but you know what's not boring? Yeah. I just love these segues. Um, someone said to find your bridesmaids now, not your husband. And no one knows anything right now. You aren't behind. Your 20s are meant for discovery. So true.

SPEAKER_00 50:13

Like, we're all thinking the same thing. Yeah. Yeah. Everyone's on the same page. I love it. I know. This person is on the same page too. They said, keep using the phrase, it's not that deep. Like, not everything needs to be an argument, not everything needs to be a breaking point. Because it isn't. Why are we holding rudges? Sometimes it is, but not always. Like, take a beat and decide what really matters to you. And like, if you need to say something, you can. But like, it's like pick and choose your battles. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 50:37

Well, yeah, if you want to say something, say it. But if it's not like for death and you don't care that much, right. Literally more.

SPEAKER_00 50:42

Or if it's gonna hurt someone more than it's gonna help, just move on. That's another thing I've feel like I've been trying to learn too. Because sometimes I'm like, other people are doing something, and I like feel like I really have to like show them like this is like I feel like this would be better. And it's like, what I'm like, why am I trying so hard to get them to listen? Like if they want to do it. It was hard. It is hard when you care about someone and you keep watching them make the same mistakes over and over, and you're like, please just take it. Stop, take my advice. You control force other people yourself. You really can only control yourself. That's their own journey. Yeah. Okay, hold on. Let me this keeps going away. Um, wait. Someone said don't drink pop off, which I just learned is a vodka. A nasty vodka that only college kids can afford. Yeah. I actually won't ever be doing that, so yeah. But thank you. No, it didn't. I'll be on my nautilis. Yeah, that's so funny. Okay, mine, the last one that I have says, make a routine that you enjoy and stick with it, but also don't be so regimented. It's okay to be organized and but just don't be like analytical that you can't enjoy life. Yeah. I agree because I my mom was always like that. Like the chores will the chores will be here when you get back. Like she was never like you have to stay here and like do this, like you haven't cleaned your room. She's like, the room will still be dirty when you get home. Yeah, like it's okay because my parents were like, if you know like in yourself that like I'm gonna get this stuff done, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_01 52:06

Yeah, my dad's like, why didn't you make your bed this morning? Like, literally go back and make it.

SPEAKER_00 52:10

That was like never a thing. I didn't start making my bed until I went to college.

SPEAKER_01 52:14

And then I was like, I kind of like I live in that military household in London.

SPEAKER_00 52:19

Yeah. No, but my mom was always like, the laundry will be here when I if I want to go do something, like like for her too. She's like, if there's something I want to do, the laundry will be here when I get back. Which I like it's not a big deal.

SPEAKER_01 52:31

Like that like makes complete sense to me. But like my dad was always like, take care of the things, like you know, like if you take care of it now, like you don't have to worry about it later, and like you're creating like a good mom, like a well, exactly like this person said, like, it's good to have a routine, it's good to have standards for yourself, but like not at the expense of like, guys, sorry, I can't go to brunch today.

SPEAKER_00 52:52

I have to clean the bathroom. Like the bathroom will still be dirty tomorrow.

SPEAKER_01 52:56

Well, I feel like people set that with like working out too. It's like I have to work out every single day.

SPEAKER_00 53:01

Yeah, it's like you're gonna be the same size and the same muscle mass tomorrow.

SPEAKER_01 53:05

I think it is good to set like goals for yourself. I'm gonna at least work out four times a week. Yeah, like I was just talking to what this about one of our cousins. Like, we like it's okay to like set goals, but it's like then like anything added on top of that is just extra. Right. But it's like it's okay. At least I've met what I wanted to do. And that's okay. But there is like today, I I wanted to work out today, but I had the podcast. So I'm like, you know what? Same.

SPEAKER_00 53:29

I'm not gonna like wake up like super early and then do sleep. Sleep is so much, that's another thing that I've learned in my 20s is that sleep is so important. It is important. Sleep on top of that sunshine and that fresh air. I mean, yeah, and you can't burn yourself out. Yeah, like my body thing you're gonna burn out will work better. Like, I would rather get an extra hour of sleep if I need it than wake up early and work out.

SPEAKER_01 53:51

Well, that's like I know like my day today is packed. Tomorrow I will work out and do like a maybe I'll do something extra on my work.

SPEAKER_00 53:57

And not like killing yourself about it. Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 53:59

Yeah, it's just having that balance and understanding, like, yes, I have my goals and my routine, but also like it is okay to have change and everything in moderation. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 54:10

And I feel that about everything. I've been subbing in elementary schools, and they're like talking about nutrition right now and like the bodily systems, like they're learning about all of it. And like one of their assessments was like, What is something that can help keep your body healthy? Oh and I'm like, Yes, like all these things are important to learn because like everything in moderation, like this little girl was like, Can I write down like peanut butter and jelly? And I'm like, Yes, girl, like protein, like fruit, like everything. If it makes you happy, it's right making you healthy. If you're eating 17 peanut butter and jellies a day, like it's not healthy. But like if you're doing everything in moderation, then of course you can have that. Like chips at lunch, sure. Yeah, literally.

SPEAKER_01 54:53

If you're having a whole bag of family-sized chips every day, but it's the same thing.

SPEAKER_00 54:57

Like, if I ate four apples a day, like it would not be good for my body. It would be too much fiber, like, I'd be shitting my brains. That's not good for you. Yeah, no, it's not. Wow, guys, this is really wonderful. Do we have any final tips?

SPEAKER_01 55:11

Um, well, this one just said, like, again, like, stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Like, we don't know what other people are going through. Like, they said, like, you know, people like don't show like their struggles, and like yeah, like that's true. So like you can't like go based off of like you might think like people are striving just based off like what they post show, but it's like you really don't know what people are going through. Yeah, like you really don't.

SPEAKER_00 55:34

Everybody just needs to be a little more gracious. I think we just need to be kind of kind, and I all I do think we need to give people grace.

SPEAKER_01 55:41

Yeah, we I'm only three years old, we got a five-year-old, yeah, four-year-old. So we're the babies, we're the youngest people. Get them in a wiggle room, let them let them figure out, okay? Like we're still figuring out our path and what works. Yes. Because we're figuring out a lot of things don't fucking work. Seriously, and that's and that's just as important. Yeah. I agree. Honestly, yeah. I've learned a lot about the things that fucking went wrong.

SPEAKER_00 56:06

I know you do, you know, but I'm a greater person from where the biggest growth happens is when stuff that you least expect to happen happens. Yeah. And you can like adjust and figure out what you want to do from there.

SPEAKER_01 56:19

And I think you guys have helped me grow.

SPEAKER_00 56:21

It is you. It's like therapy for me. It's therapy.

SPEAKER_01 56:27

I was talking to my nan about it. I was like, I talk like about a lot of things that like I normally like wouldn't have a conversation about. But it's like it feels very free.

SPEAKER_00 56:36

Like saying I'm actually asked each other questions that like normally we wouldn't ask each other. Yeah. Right. I love it. And like I've had a lot of people reach out and say the same thing, which is nice because I like sometimes feel like we're like, we didn't even get that many views this week, but like for the people who are seeing it, like they're enjoying it, which is really nice. Oh my gosh. For my own. If we're helping one person a week, then like that's awesome. Yeah. And for ourselves.

SPEAKER_01 56:59

Like, I honestly can't wait to look back and like say 20 years and be like, wow, like that's what we talked about. This is what we felt about. This was us in our 20s.

SPEAKER_00 57:06

Yeah, documents. When we're actually 20 years old. Yeah. Or actually 20. Yeah. 20 years old. This was amazing, guys. I love it. I loved it. I loved it too. Okay, Ari, where can we find you? Find me at RD every week.

SPEAKER_01 57:22

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SPEAKER_00 57:27

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